The thing about women is it is not something especially talked about. I mean even me... as submerged into the sexual world as I have allowed [I wanted to be a sexologist, opening my own adult store geared towards women's sexuality and education promoting healthy sexual behaviors for women... but GoodVibes in the City beat me to it... 20-years before I was born...] I hate the word: Vagina. IT IS SO WEIRD TO SAY.
Both sexes have the four phases of sexual response. Called the Masters and Johnson's Four-Phase Model
- Excitement
- Plateau
- Orgasm
- Resolution
So not everyone is the same but this a SUPER-GENERAL-BREAKDOWN
- Excitement
- in both Men and Women
- Increase in blood pressure and heart rate
- Nipple erections [Most common in females]
- in Men
- Penis becomes erect
- Testes elevate and engorge
- Scrotal skin thickens and tenses
- in Women
- Clitoris swells
- Labia majora separate away from vaginal opening
- Labia minora swell and darken in color
- lubrication begins
- Uterus elevates
- Breasts enlarge
- Plateau
- in both Men and Women
- Involuntary muscle contractions especially in hands and feet
- Heart rate, blood pressure, and breathing increase
- in Men
- Engorgement and elevation of testes becomes more pronounced
- "Pre-Cum" may occur
- in Women
- Clitoris withdraws under its hood
- Uterus becomes fully elevated
- Areola becomes more swollen
- ORGASM
- in both Men and Women
- Involuntary muscle spasms throughout the body
- Blood pressure, breathing, and heart rates at maximum levels
- Involuntary contractions of rectal sphincter
- in Men
- Pooling of seminal fluid
- Semen expelled by contractions of muscles around the base
- in Women
- Orgasmic platform contracts rhythmically 3 to 15 times
- Uterine contractions occur
- Clitoris remains under its hood
- Resolution
- in both Men and Women
- Heart rate, blood pressure, and breathing resume to normal immediately after orgasm
- Sex flush disappears rapidly
- Nipple erection subsides slowly
- in Men
- Erection subsides in over a period of a few minutes
- Testes descend and return to their normal size.
- Resolution quite rapid in most men
- in Women
- Clitoris descends and engorgement slowly subsides
- Labia return to unaroused size
- Uterus descends to normal position
- Lack of orgasm after period of high arousal may dramatically slow resolution.
Many women get caught at the Plateau stage. But there are different kinds of orgasms for a woman. You have clitoral stimulation, internal which includes a G Spot orgasm(which G stands for the GUY it was named after... Grafenberg), and somewhere between those is the "squirt" which even with all the books I have read on the subject I STILL have not found an article explaining it.
It normally takes a woman longer than a man in the excitement phase. Normally their is some sort of social stigma attacking our brains. But once we get passed our constant thought processes we can finally hit the plateau stage... the only problem... foreplay was finished a long time ago and they are in their resolution stage. [Not always... but I am just saying... foreplay is important]
Not all women are the same [just like not all men are the same] I know women who HATE oral, some who love it, I know women who hate being touched and others that need to have clitoral or internal stimulation before even THINKING about sex, I know women who love anal, and others who would probably deck someone in the face if it happened, I know women who want to be touched and kissed softly and women who want things to be rough, I know women who use vibrators before and during sex. I mean seriously... the combinations are ENDLESS.... and it is pretty messed up because women expect men to know.
That's about all I am going to say.
Megan--- You crack me up! Where did that come from...lol... I always love reading your creative thoughts! You are always so random :)
ReplyDeleteI read once (and I cannot remember the source, but feel free to disprove this) that women who "squirt" have a small amount of prostate tissue, that allow them to achieve liquid discharge that is akin to peeing, but is not actual urine. I thought it was interesting. Again, don't know how true that is, but it kinda makes sense.
ReplyDeleteI would actually agree to that. It is a "need to pee" sensation although women cannot actually use the restroom. They just have to... relax and... enjoy the ride?
DeleteI agree with everything!
ReplyDeleteNow this may be TMI but I really don't care. During class the prof gave us a "project", that if you had a partner and were active, to SLOW IT DOWN. Spend 20 minutes just doing foreplay w/out oral stimulation and see if that helps you two sync during the plateau/orgasm phase....we did the challenge and let's just say Dan ended it with "hands down, that was THE BEST EVER".
If people just SLOWED down and truly concentrated on what they're doing and who with, everyone would have a better sex life. Too many people go in with other thoughts on their brain that sometimes it's just a "hurry up" act which is not pleasurable for either of you and could lead to problems down the road.
Jackie! Excellent point and foreplay can be SO MANY DIFFERENT THINGS! I appreciate your openness woman! I think blogs like this can help open peoples eyes to the real beauty of it. :)
DeleteOh, and let me just say I didn't get an immediate "okay" when I first brought it up but boy, will he never question any of my "experiments" again!
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